Spring Symposium: The Rough Patch in Midlife Relationships and How Clinicians Can Help

Daphne de Marneffe, PhD

Saturday, March 9, 2019 from 9:00 am to 1:00 pm. Registration starts at 8:30 am.

Spring Symposium: The Rough Patch in Midlife Relationships and How Clinicians Can Help

Despite our warranted skepticism about the cliché of the "midlife crisis," we all witness daily the reality of midlife turbulence and malaise, often focused on the viability and vitality of long-term intimate relationships. There’s a very deep, meaningful process going on in mid-adulthood that is not captured by red sports cars or by our current psychological theories. People ask themselves: Is this it? Is this what I want? This isn’t what I imagined, but could it be? Today we live longer lives, question the value of monogamy, and search for family structures that balance security and the expression of authentic desire. In this talk, de Marneffe will propose a more complex and useful model for why relationships in mid-adulthood are so hard; discuss what clinicians get right -- and wrong -- in trying to help long-term couples; and offer a path for how individuals and couples can move through the rough patches in their relationships with integrity and love.

Following the keynote address, Leslie Bell will be in conversation with Dr. de Marneffe about the challenges of midlife, the challenges of couple relationships, and specific challenges of keeping relationships going in midlife. The conversation will also address how clinicians can help clients to not just weather the rough patch but make use of it to develop further, in their relationship and as individuals. There will be an opportunity for Q&A after the conversation.

Daphne de Marneffe, PhD, is a psychologist and author of The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together and Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life. She has published scholarly papers on gender identity development, maternal subjectivity, and psychoanalytic history, and she teaches and lectures on couple therapy, adult development, and parenthood. She is also a contributing editor to Parents Magazine, where she writes a monthly column on couple relationships. Her work has been featured in the New York Times, O Magazine, NPR, Greater Good, Psychotherapy Networker, and Talks at Google. She is in private practice in Corte Madera, CA.

Leslie C. Bell, PhD, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, sociologist, and author of Hard to Get: Twentysomething Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom and co-editor of Gender, Sex, and Sexualities: Psychological Perspectives. Her work has appeared in various academic and popular publications and has been frequently cited in the news media. She teaches and lectures on women’s development, twentysomethings, gender inequality, and sexuality. She is the president of the Board of Directors at TPI and is in private practice in Berkeley, CA.

Date & Time: Saturday, March 9, 2019 from 9:00 am to 1:00 pm. Registration starts at 8:30 am.

Location: Nile Hall, Preservation Park, 668 13th St., Oakland, CA (get map and directions)

 Fee if Registration Completed: by 2/21/19 after 2/21/19
TPI Members $100 $120
Nonmembers $120 $140
Prelicensed Students/Interns $85 $105

CE: 4 Credits. $10 additional fee for CE credits. The Psychotherapy Institute is approved by the California Psychological Association to provide continuing professional education for psychologists, LMFTs, LCSWs, and LPCCs (provider number PSY005). The Psychotherapy Institute maintains responsibility for these programs and their content (see Course Policies). Fulfills the BBS supervision class requirement.